You know...those last couple of posts are possibly the most productive I've seen you write.
And to answer your question...yes, when I was LD and I knew my H was unhappy with our SL I did feel constantly pressured by it. Here's a thought though...is your W a person who feels she always has to be in control of herself? Your description of her when she has an O makes me wonder if that doesn't overwhelm her in some ways. I can certainly remember several years ago when "thrashing about" would have embarrassed the heck out of me. I hated feeling like I wasn't in control of my own body.
If that's the case, I don't have any advice on how to handle that necessarily....but it's an interesting thought.
