Quote: What is higher up on her emotional needs index?
God I wish I knew. Finances rank up there, and I think acts of service. She LOVES to be busy, she wants to PLEASE everyone, (except me). And she wants to be aceepted as she is, VERY LD.
Quote: Does she allow acts of service that involve contact. ie back rubs, foot rubs, massages?
All the time, but she uses them to go to sleep. I don't have a problem with this, but it ususally does not lead to any meeting of MY needs.
Quote: I wanted to ask you a question about this. If you wife is a ND and she has sex with you to fufill your needs do you not look at this as a act of love?
You could look at this as love, but it certainly is not passion. My need is not for sex, my need is for sexual fulfillment (as described in His Needs/Her Needs). In other words, my need is not sex, but rather to have a women that "needs" sex from me. In my relationship, ALL touching is from me to her. There is no cuddling, no kissing, no real affection. She allows me to touch her in non-sexual ways. When we do have sex, it is only after I spend a lot of time arousing her, I usually give her oral sex to a good orgasam, and then she rolls over and says "let's take care of you!" Talk about a mood killer, I am a freakin' chore to her. What I want is the EASIEIST thing on earth, I just want to be wanted.
