Quote: I see this in my wife, she tries to be wonderful to everyone else, but I am taken for granted. I too, receive less affection then the children, and even the freakin' dog.
CeMar:
I bet you'll have an easier time getting the dog interested in being "buds" with you if you try than you would making that same effort with the W, and you should do so for both you and your dog's sakes. Mine is a Golden Retriever, age 9, who for all of those years is the only one who waits up for me to come home from my 2nd shift job. Loyal to the ends of the earth, always happy to see me. Don't get resentful about your dog's and your W's relationship. You can best her R with the pooch easy if your priorities are less AOS oriented than hers and just go for the love and attention that can be shared between MAN and MAN's best friend. You (and pooch) both owe it to each other to share that bond, KWIM? I'm sure you do, and I just took your dog comment out of context.
As for being way, way down on her list of priorities, hey, isn't that a bitc*? The way I see it, it is not at all rewarding, and as a matter of fact, I'm fighting this too right now, if I do everything according to her plan as to what and when I help her redecorate our bedroom before Labor Day, I can count on her interest and a mild amount of her affection. But not in bed. If I don't, I'm screwed, as in pieces of poochie excrement out in the lawn, not as in being rocked up in the under construction BR.
What is your W LL? Here's a real strange answer to that same question. I took the questionaire back in early July with my wife. I did'nt give here time to "fudge" the results and even so she came out to be a 6 for each of the 5 categories, blowing me away, once again, with her mystique. After 27 years of trying to understand someone who you want to be as close to as your W, mystique = pain in the a$$.
The priorities will continue to be distant from me at least til the BR project is finished and the kids go back to college. Then the empty nest happens again. Do you think the first weekend of empty nest she will want to give the pooch a bath as a distraction and a way to keep us busy?
