Quote: I think what you're describing-- getting all warm and fuzzy when you think of spooning with your W-- is what this author would call "arousal," viz., actual physical sensations.
What she calls "desire" is what we have been calling "willingness," and she suggests that we not overlook that the two used to be identical or simultaneous (and for some HD people they still are after many years of marriage, lucky dogs!), but they can still go hand in hand.
Exactly!!! It is sometimes much easier to arrive at arousal than desire for me! And I like the distinction b/t arousal and desire, makes it easier to decide which, if any, I possess!
Great observations. I'm looking up the book after this!
