Quote: Cemar, take this as the ultimate expression of love, and her full attempt at giving you what you desire... her.
It's not enough to say you want her to want you. You need to appreciate the fact that she is willing to try, and that she is at least getting close to the target. Gosh, I'd get pretty discouraged if my H didn't appreciate the efforts I make to show him how much I want him to be happy. You are looking for 100% effort, and not recognizing it when you see it.
I’m with Cemar on this one (here you go buddy, sticking up for you again). It isn’t love what she is showing, in a perverse sort of way, it is a kind of respect but it isn’t love. Willing isn’t wanting, putting out isn’t showing love. Having seen both sides of it with my W, the difference is dramatic.
Last night, we were in bed, I was trying to figure out if she wanted to go to sleep (she seemed tired) when she rolled over and it was obvious she was willing, I wasn’t sure if she was ‘wanting or willing’ her advances continued and I decided to play along. Her eyes looking into mine as we ML and the feeling of our arms around each other went well beyond just ‘putting out’. Ok maybe I confuse desire with love, but the effort isn’t the act, it is the feeling BEFRE, during and after the act. It is desire, the feeling inside of wanting, physically and mentally. If it was just about sex, lets face it there are plenty of places/ ways of getting that. It is about wanting THAT person from head to, um, toes.
