Quote: So... I guess she really liked it-- a lot! But somewhere in her a voice said that something you like so much a) can't be good for you, and b) has to be controlled or at least moderated.
Do you think she consciously damped down her desire over the years, the way we remind ourselves that one (or one half of a) Krispy Kreme is tolerable, but a whole one (or fifteen) will clog our arteries and make us burst out of our fat clothes? I mean, did she deliberately, consciously talk herself out of wanting sex? Are you aware of when this happened?
No. So, finding the answer is like finding the solution to our world’s energy crisis, or the holes in the ozone layer, or……I don’t know the answer. She won’t tell me.
A few weeks ago I had a major breakthrough. We were in bed making love and I asked her which part of her clit felt better when I touched her down there. She told me the answer, honestly, then ended the conversation saying that was enough divulging information for now. She loves to be secretive that way.
That’s just the way she is. She doesn’t understand that telling me how to make love to her would make OUR LIFE better.
I’m beginning to see it this way…..We both work Monday thru Friday. She works mornings, I work evenings. When I come home at night, she’s already asleep. When she gets up, I’m asleep. All we have are the weekends. So, if come the weekend, both of us are not willing and ready to leave our own little worlds and create OUR WORLD, our world isn’t going to happen at all. What needs to happen is both of us emerge from our own little Monday thru Friday worlds and work together to create OUR WORLD together,
You have no idea how much I would like to know why she thought sex would become an addiction and why she chose to not let herself get into it. Also, there are a million other questions that partners in marriages that are working WELL ask and answer for each other that I’d like to know about. WE just can’t seem to get started. Too secretive. Too precious. Too intimate. Too me and not you. These are things we need to talk about. But we’ve only been married for 27 years. Let’s not rush into anything.
I’d like to introduce her to the BB. here. Maybe she’d answer YOUR questions?
