Quote: I know my own wife is willing to have sex because I "need" it. I HATE this.
Cemar, take this as the ultimate expression of love, and her full attempt at giving you what you desire... her.
It's not enough to say you want her to want you. You need to appreciate the fact that she is willing to try, and that she is at least getting close to the target. Gosh, I'd get pretty discouraged if my H didn't appreciate the efforts I make to show him how much I want him to be happy. You are looking for 100% effort, and not recognizing it when you see it.
As for the 'nearly perfect mate', I'd say it would be a combination of someone who is physically attractive, as well as someone with intelligence and strength. Someone willing to want me to succeed over and above his own success, and someone who wants to put me first, above himself. (I will give the same, of course.) I would also want someone with kindness, compassion, and humour.
