Ok....so what about finding a really good MC? That's what we are doing right now...I swear last week my H thought I was going to drop the "D" bomb on him....I didn't, but I could tell by the look on his face he thought I was going to. I'm nowhere near ready to call it quits yet....but I am doing absolutely EVERYTHING I can to make it perfectly clear to my H I'm serious as a heart attack about what the consequences will be....and that it's his choice to step up and address the problem and do his part to fix it, or not to. If he chooses not to, I can't control that but I can reinforce the consequences I'm prepared to live with.
MC for me was something I put my foot down about in the beginning of this process....I told him it was either that, or we wouldn't have another anniversary. He took me seriously enough to go. We are now on our 3rd C...the 1st one was a temporary one assigned through my EAP, the 2nd....really wasn't helping, our current C....I feel is great! She calls BULL when necessary but is comfortable enough and easy going enough to really talk to.....she also doesn't miss a thing!!!! I really recommend this.
