I hate the idea of divorce but I will do it if things dont change. The pain is to much otherwise. Like you I have made it clear that I will not live in a SSM much longer and that Im at the end of my rope.We seem to have that argument once every 2 weeks. Im going to be 36 in a month and I want a sex life before its to late so the hard part is deciding on a date of "action". My reasons in no particular order are.. 1. Because Im scared to end it. 2. Finances - I am getting laid-off and jobs are not paying what I make. 3. It will hurt our kids. 4. I hate the idea of her finding someone else when I could not be the "one" for her. yeah its an ego thing. I keep hoping she will snap out of it and attack me. SO I wait................... and wait....and wait.