Your XW's attitude appears to be shifting. She seems quite unhinged right now. I am struck by her always calling you to complain about something that is wrong with S5 that she holds you responsible for. This has been a consistent trend in your sitch. I suspect that your XW is internally stressed and is not out of the anger phase yet. My WAW spent about 1 - 1.5 years in the anger phase. Eventually this anger will burn out. It seems to me that your XW suffers from the same problem that mine does, i.e. lack of coping skills. I dont know how that can get sorted out. I am beginning to have doubts whether mine will develop enough maturity and strength to be able to handle everything. Take care. I hope S5 is doing better.
UD
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
Hmmm, Mr. Skipperdo, T? I can picture you doing the bunny thing, but he'd be a reach.
K, I've gotta have a cape. How else can I look cool flying around my place?
My first date w/ s/o other than XW is set for next weekend. Low expectations and a focus on friendship. This morn, another very attractive 34yo asked me if I was up to doing s/t. Is this a test of my will to DB and stay focused on XW?
Reading Purpose-Driven Life really is helping me to stay grounded/relaxed thru all this.
NO CAPE! Remember Thunderhead? Mr. Incredible and I don't want to have to come rescue you for that silly accessory. Besides, you have all the power you need in those suspenders.
Now get back to class and have an enjoyable daydream about your upcoming date. You can't get in trouble since you're the teacher, eh?
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Reviewing yesterday, it was nice. I got to go to Mass with S6 in the am. Sat w/ his class - kids looked cute in their uniforms, S6 spiffy in his tie. Had to talk to him quietly about not licking his tie then trying to stick it to the side of his face.
After school, he got to pickout a toy from BDay money sent by family. No luck on suspenders yet. May have to order online, as they're not quite the fashion item anymore. Who knew!
At pickup, XW was friendly, and suggested indirectly that I go to a Yoko Ono art show (her stuff and Lennon's) in town, as she had gone after work. I was pleasant and quashed a desire to ask if Ono's painting was as good as her singing. I didn't think that sort of humor would be well-placed. She noted that she might try to take S5 camping this weekend. I just smiled and nodded, again saying nothing about the remnants of Hurricane Katrina making this area sopping wet and very muggy. I'm sure she can make the call and face the reality of her decision. Wished her a nice weekend and left.
I'm going to a 3-4 hr class on children that I need to complete so I can volunteer at S6's school. Not the way I want to spend a big part of my Sat, but it'll be good for us in the long run. Tonight, I'm going to see the 40yo Virgin with a MF. Figure it'll be a good way to laugh about my sitch a bit.
Bruce, I got nothin. I'm absolutely clueless about XW, my state of mind, and my feelings toward her. Convos with OW might help to clear that up. Or cloud things more.
Just wanted to stop by and say "hi"... Read your post today that you are planning to see the "40-yr. old Virgin" movie tonight... I actually saw it last night and I think you will enjoy it! Hope you are having a good weekend! Just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you! -KIM
The movie was hilarious. I especially liked the waxing scene. XW used to have me wax her in key places. I now wonder if I triggered growing hatred in her by doing so... The film also painted women as aggressive, intimidating - I doubt that's reality, but we shall see... I thought the film did a great job depicting the typical male's struggle to deal with woman, especially on the emotional level. Okay, why again am I facing the dating scene at the overripe age of 38? Oh yes, b/c XW left me.
During my goodnight call to S6, XW was telling him in the background to tell me that they had gone to a grape stomp as an outing. Four uncles on my dad's side grow grapes in CA, and XW knows that I hope to retire to a plot of land and do the same. She and her parents ripped into this dream during the early stages of the S/D, saying it hadn't come true. At the time, I was merely incredulous, thinking 'of course not, cause I've got at least 20 yrs before retiring. Duh!!
