I know what you mean because during that year I didn't see Andy, I only had sex 5 times in the whole year (various one night stands etc) and now in my current sitch, I haven't had any for 4 months.
I hated the one nighter's though. Didn't get anything out of it sexually, felt terribly guilty etc etc. And I think the human mind is more complicated than we give it credit for. I told these men it was only sex so I thought we were on a level playing field, but I ended up in a sitch where I either felt disgusted because of the blatent way I was being used, or they fell in love with me and were then upset when I didn't want to know (I had marriage proposals and ILY's just because of the sex, and that was after 2 or 3 meetings).
No matter what, someone always gets hurt, because someone finds out (like XW, for instance) or someone falls in love when the other person isn't, so basically I think casual sex and casual dating are a disaster unless you are sticking to dinner only.
