I forgot my own advice seconds after I spew it out. What that bit about being careful about mercury levels? Hmmm, be bluntly honest with my 1st dates... Like how brutally sexually frustrated I am after 10 mos of abstinence?
This is an odd place to be in. I'm detached in that XW is likely facing years of self-work (UD, I still like your 3yr estimate). She seems to have moved from the "I wanna be a 20 something party girl", to "I'm not sure about my sexual orientation" to "I'm in a mad rush to find a guy."
Reading the MLC forum and other books, the MLCer progress involves cycling amoung the stages. I do wonder if she ever sits and processes things somewhat deeply. She has been kinder to me, but I get the sense that she's still not truly valuing my positive changes (our interactions are very encumbered by the RO right now). Instead, I feel some sort of guilt/pity mix from her. Although I think she's moving out of her comfort zone with me regarding the possibility that I'm dating now (she sent strong suspicion vibes re my trip last week).
Just wanted to reaffirm that I'm not giving up on DBing, just being realistic about timeline and possibilities regarding reconciliation.
Hmmm, be bluntly honest with my 1st dates... Like how brutally sexually frustrated I am after 10 mos of abstinence? 
