You mentioned in your last post that you doubt whether your XW will believe in your contentment with her until you actually do go out and experience other women... IMHO, instead of focusing on how to make your W happy, you can now focus on paying attention to your own needs and take care of yourself like no one else can. Keep focusing on Gabriel... on making YOU the best person you can be... kind, caring, compassionate, honest, etc. The "new Gabriel" may be someone with whom someone else may want to spend time with. Even if that does not happen soon, I think you know that you will be okay... B/c in reality, the most important thing we can learn from all of this is to love and respect ourselves. Gabe... through this struggle, you have grown into a more complete person. You will have all the knowledge to create a better relationship with whomever you choose. A new you will arrive who is stronger, wiser, and more open and capable. You will be so much better prepared to enter into a new relationship that can make your life that much more fulfilling. Although you may not have saved your M to your XW, you have created a wonderful "new Gabriel" that WILL make the right woman very happy for the rest of her life... I truly believe that, Gabe.
I remember you once posted and asked yourself: "Why don't I just move on and find someone else?"... You answered with... "B/c my heart is telling me I am not ready."... Gabriel, when you ARE ready, there is no doubt in my mind that you WILL find love again in the future. It is quite obvious that our hearts have been broken, but now we are responsible to heal what has been done. I know that I continue to struggle with my identity... to change from thinking of myself as part of a "couple", to now changing myself to a strong, independent woman.
Gabe, your opinion and views on this BB are so valuable. I am filled with admiration for the way you have handled yourself through this difficult situation. You have grown so much and you continue to grow on a daily basis. Thank you so much for your time, thoughts, and support on my thread. It means more to me than you could ever possibly know. You have the ability to make me think alot harder and understand that I do deserve to be happy and that is MY responsibility. Thanks again, Gabriel. You also deserve to have the happiest life possible! Talk with you soon... Your friend, KIM
