Wow! I return to my thread only to find it turned into some kind of 'Dating Game" discussion.(j/k)
Hope,
I'm with you in terms no desire for more drama. I've had my fill from 34yo XW.
Well, the RO hearing was yesterday, and the result was disappointing. X got what she wanted - an extension of the RO for the remainder of her stay in MY house. I'm officially banned from my house for ~ 3mo. I sat thru about 30+ cases before ours was heard. Whether with Attorneys or not, the judge never swayed from granting the RO to the petitioner. I had to sit with guys and a few women that had beaten up their partners, shot out their windows, threatened them. H@ll, I was afraid of them, too.
I was the only respondent who asked to have the order dismissed - on the grounds that there was not a hint of threatened or real violence, as I was the owner of the home outright for 4+ mo now, and as we worked at the same location. The judge watered it down, but kept it in place.
In a sense, I have court-ordered distancing and detachment. And X gets to lounge in my house for another 3 mo. I can't even evict her. Maybe I should sell it out from under her?
I saw women with black eyes there, ones who were truly being terrorized (a few men, too), and it made me shake my head about how she was misusing the system. But its all going to be okay. I'm still in balance, this too shall pass, and soon I will be in my house to make it a home for S5 and I.
Immediately after the hearing - literally within 5 min - X was calling my cell phone. I ignored it and pressed on to take S5 to his kindergarten orientation. X appeared and put on a bright cheery face. She tried to make smalltalk, but I said "excuse me" and walked to the other side of the classroom. I'm not about to get violated for the RO within the first hour.
X forgot to get S5's school supplies. He was the only child without a packet of things. As school starts Monday, I hope that she does so. Covering for her lapses over the past 3-4 mo is getting old. S5 left there, had a fun lunch together, took in a matinee movie, then went to my place to play and hang out. He cried more last night, putting himself down, and told me at one point that he didn't want to live anymore. I'm going to line up therapy for him, as I think this sitch is draining him as well.
At our exchange of S5, we had some extra donuts for X and I asked her to watch his feelings and attend to any sadness that she saw, noting that he was very down these past two visits.
