This new stage in your sitch is very interesting and may be key to your R with W. Your W is truly in the throes of dysfunction and has been flying off into space with everything. She has got to come back to the ground and she will with a resounding thud. You need to stay calm and detached so that when she does jolt awake and regains sanity you will be the epitome of good sense. I feel for you on S5. It is really heartbreaking and it seems senseless that the WASs should put kids through these things.
I admire your detachment and continuing to staying the course for your S5 and hopefully await an R once the W comes back to her senses. Meanwhile I love the way you are letting XW face the consequences of the RO. In case XW finally buckles and asks you why you are behaving the way you are, perhaps you can defuse the situation and also let her realize her mistake in putting that RO on you by saying "I did not want to be arrested" or something like that. Boy, given the craziness of the while situation I could think of several rather sarcastic repartees.
Keep strong.
UD
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
