I've been keeping up w/your sitch all week, but really not sure what to say other than you are doing GREAT!!!
Reading through this seems like a whole 'dejavu-ey' kind of thing. When my ex served me the div papers, he threw in a RO also. Mine was on the finances, but also included a statement barring me from the premises (where s9 was). Lucky for me, the judge finally let that slide until the div hearing. But it still made for a very uncomfortable sitch. I could reside there, but could not 'touch' anything or get rid of anything of 'monetary' value!
But then, ex would 'forget' about his RO also, wanted some house cleaning, packing done, etc and leave me to do it. I would just keep making nice little (or big) piles of stuff and then show him over and over. "Can I keep this" or "Can we get rid of this?" He even was giving away stuff to his s20 and I told him I wanted a written statement of this, so it couldn't be held against me in court!
You are doing a fabulous job. There were many times during the RO period that I was ready to give up and walk away. But then he would start pursuing, which made everything even more confusing. Keep up w/the detachment and as jdd says, leave it in God's hands. There seems to be an extreme amount of pressure in your sitch lately, and she seems to be directing way too much anger towards you over the snooping. T
