If this were not so entirely painful it could very well form a good script for a comedy movie. I am sure your W's actions defy logic of any kind. It's just incredible!!!
You know what, you want to consider this point: Your W is lashing out at you in extreme anger, even frustration here. Perhaps even huge guilt because in the recent past you have uncovered her EA/PAs and her use of porn. For a woman like your W this is a huge calamity and the only thing she can do is to look at the most obvious target to direct her explosion. That, my friend, is you of course.
Gabe, at this time, take the high road. Let her wallow in her own mess. Do not get sucked into it because not only will it irrevocably ruin your sitch, IT WILL RUIN YOUR S's life for a long time. Just lie low, stay quiet and let her silly garbage play itself out in the dark recesses of her mind, where all MLCers recede to.
If you want to talk to vent your anger you know how to get me.
UD
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
