Brief review: Me: 38 W: 34 5yr Son Separated since 10/28/04. Signed D Papers 3/24/05 D finalized 5/2/05.
Since June & July, the sitch has gone South. Probably not coincidentally, W has begun to date, and has shown solid signs of MLC, including great expenditures on her body, dating posts for men (started one for women), and hanging out with a small group of folks 10 yrs younger than her.
I've lost my detachment, got caught snooping on 7/27 or so, and may have a related RO against me. I'm currently worried about her relocating with my son.
To stem this growing overfocus and possible paranoia, I'm shifting back to detachment, heavy GAL work, and set goals for mere friendship with W. The idea is to hope that she fits the MLC pattern/stages, with her anger and replay patterns eventually subsiding.
