If she's pushing the D after nice interactions, why don't you consider NOT interacting?
I had to disappear on my X before I got anywhere, before he missed me.
Whenever he does something I don't like, I just cut him off and refuse to listen to his problems etc. He only gets the benefit of my company when he invests into his R with me.
If you are around for her, solving her problems etc then she has no reason NOT to divorce you, as she thinks she will still get all that even while divorced.
