I am lurking occasionally but not posting right now. WAW is pushing forward with the divorce. Things are great between us otherwise. She is talking to me about her daily stuff, seeking support from me, we are being very nice to each other, physical space has maintained in accidental touching mode. But like a runaway train she keeps taking steps to get this divorce over with. I dont get it. I am very confused and just dont get how someone can do all that while also steadily improving interactions. I am being very cooperative in the whole D process. I just want it over with. I dont know if there is a possibility of resurrecting the R to the extent of a possible future reconciliation anymore. We have been at this for more than two years now and she has chosen this path and persists on it. I have totally given up arguing against her swinging a wrecking ball on the past.
I am very confused and I dont think I can DB this thing to get anywhere at this point. I notice that she takes the next step towards D particularly immediately after we have had a really good interaction. Almost like the good interaction makes her panicky or something. I cant explain it, I leave after time together with her and D3 thinking, "wow, I DBed well there, perhaps some deposits have been made in the love bank?" and kaboom, the next day she emails me of her progress on the D proceedings. I know Wes had a similar experience with his XW. I dont understand it....
I am going to lie low and be sporadic in my participation on the bb for a while just until I sort things out.
Wes: I see that you are on a positive turn and I think patience will pay off for you.
Gabe: your sitch seems to be heading into murky waters with your XW in full MLC mode questioning everything she is. It is going to take some time for things to turn around and to become clear.
All: I hope things get better for each of you.
UD
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
