Hi Gabriel (and dejavu):

Hey, I cant make it in September. In fact, I am neck deep until December, the Fall semester is particularly heavy in teaching load for me and also there is far too much travel coming up. I am out every month for a few days in Aug-Dec, including a conference in Singapore in Dec. Why couldnt you guys plan something in summer, huh?

gd1:

Thanks for your post. I assume you are either new in this heaven-forsaken netherworld of the bb or perhaps you are just browsing to see what the bottom of the barrel is talking about?

WAW herself has a degree in law and I am not sure why she could not just download some forms from the net and fill it out? I guess she did not want to spend the time. Anyway, I dont think she has any economic constraints to worry about. She makes more money than I do and for some reason, even though we are going to have joint custody of D3, I will have to pay her child support according to the her lawyer (I really need to look into this once I see the paperwork). Giving her books like DB will not be useful and may hurt me because it will take away my ammunition. MIL is a mystery to me. She lacks analytical capacity and so I dont even know what (if anything) she is thinking. And I dont want to involve any of W's family in this mess. I dont think it will help me any.

I agree with you 100% on the impact of divorce. It really eats a culture from the insides and is such a preventable tragedy. Sucks lemons for sure. And boy, have I tried my best to not see this come to pass in the past couple years. But it's just not been enough to stave it off.

Thanks for pixie dust gd1. Now I need to go take another shower.

UD

The 3 laws of DBing: 1. PMA is critical to DBing. 2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical. 3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.