I really thought I was emotionally and mentally prepared for the D, because she had moved out and we were certainly emotionally and physically divorced, so the legal matter seemed only a formality. But when a couple of months went by with no mention, I began to believe it meant something, so when she did give me notice, it was like being shot.
I am not remotely able to understand how you walked the minefield for so long. You can only hope since you have been separated for so long, it will be only a formality, be it a painful, final one.
You have no choice but to keep moving as you have.
