Not much has happened. After the rather nice talk yesterday (but for the intimation that the D was indeed going to happen), W has retreated into coldness yet again.
I am feeling very discouraged right now and I doubt more and more that anything will come out of this R in the future. I have been her for over two years and while W admits to strong feelings for me still, I dont see a route to recovery for the M. And neither does W. I think like Wes' XW, mine has a head-heart conflict and it seems like her head (or some discombobulated version thereof) is winning right now.
On a lighter note:
This morning I was driving D3 to daycare and she said something sweet to which I said "I love you D3" and she said "Me too", then paused for a second and with a smile she said "I love myself". I cracked up both because of what she said and also because I was tickled that she noticed that "Me too" was an inappropriate response. And then she topped that off with "I love my parents too" and laughed. (How many times have we been to a grocery store and the checkout-person says "come see us again" and you go "you too" and retreat hastily with a "WTF did I just say?" look on your face? )
A couple days back one of the day-care-ladies said : "D3 was sassy today." I looked puzzled. She said "I asked D3 to take a time out and she put both her palms facing up and said "whatever"". I outwardly expressed appropriate disapproval while smiling on the inside. Then she said "and then I told her to stand right there and D3 said "absolutely not"". Well, it was all I could do to suppress my laughter while continuing to sympathize with the day-care-lady. I did gently upbraid D3 later about saying those things but she can be so disarming and I am such a push-over I doubt she will quit being sassy.
Lately she has taken to squeezing our cheeks and saying "dont be so cheeky". Really cracks me up.
For a three-year old she does have a keen sense of humor.
UD
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
