I personally like the second option. When I was still letting my husband have control, I saw no change. I'm not sure if in their minds, having at least 1 foot in the door makes them feel as if they are still in the mix. Human nature just dictates to people that they should want what they can't have and we women are a different breed you know. So you're there, in waiting, and she really doesn't have to go out on a limb in any way.
What if all of a sudden she really had to work to figure out where YOU were coming from? Maybe if would be good for her to feel what it would be like without Wes waiting in the wings. Right now for you, this is a guessing game. You really have nothing to go on because she hasn't told you what all of this means.
If this works for you than that's another scenario altogether, but it seems to me you're spinning your wheels and getting nowhere fast!
About our date, can't do it this weekend (flying to LA tomorrow) and next weekend I'll be in Chicago, but I am free the weekend after Labor Day. Ya know paybacks are a Biatch, aren't they???
