Happy Sunday. I just got back from Mom's place last night. It was a very relaxing week and I definitely got the distancing I needed from XW.
Spent the week visiting, we camped in the mountains one night (good time) and doing a little work around the yard. It's gotten fairly weedy since my Dad passed away.
I brought my ex-stepson with me. He's a little uncomfortable I think, but I guess it went okay. My mom didn't greet him that warmly or anything, but no one gave him a hard time.
My X obviously had to call a few times at least while I was gone since I had her son. I didn't make any effort at all to call her and actually didn't even want to. I really was getting to the point where I accepted my situation and am not sure I wanted to her back. She always sounded down when I talked to her, but I didn't ask if anything was wrong.
She cleaned the house, or at least some of it while I was away. It must have taken her quite a few hours. It was nice of her. She did make some disparaging remarks about the state of the house, but I didn't get terribly defensive. I know I've let some things slip, but it's really in pretty good shape considering it's so large and I have other things I'd rather do. Also, when she called this morning and I was upset that I missed church she said facetiously "you're going to church now? Since when?"
Anyway, when she came over to get her son she was clearly upset and I gave her a hug that she readily accepted. I said "what's wrong" and she pulled me to the side and told me her uncle and aunt, who she has always been real close to, were separating. I said I was sorry to hear that, they always seemed happy together (don't they all) and gave her another very long hug and multiple other ones later. She came to my arms without fuss or any "MMMmmmmmmmm"s.
Her cousin, the son of the uncle and aunt that are separating, is going to Iraq (he's in the Marines). It's scary since he's going to a bad area. I wanted to see him off too so we followed them out to the airport. My X's whole family was there. It was nice seeing them all. I gave her a couple more hugs as well as her aunt that was looking pretty upset.
After that, my sons and I went to lunch then rollerblading. I stopped by my X's place because she had wanted me to watch her kids while she went to the gym. I didn't end up watching them. She came and sat by me on the loveseat looking sad, so I pulled her onto my lap where she sat while we talked. It was nice. She eventually got up but I think things ended on a good note.
So that brings me to now. Hope you all had a good week. I need to do some catching up with your situations. Take care.
W
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
