I will not ask that question, but I will ask this one, why do you get upset with her or yourself when she comes and goes in the house with the kids, etc when you have continued to give her access?
To follow your thought on the other thread, I believe most of us believe we failed because we did not "bust" the divorce, but I feel there was very little we could do once we realized the train was headed out of control. As I said, DBing may not save the marriage, but it will save our sanity.
I too looked for information regarding remarriage and like you, found little data. We are clearly forging new territory. Many LBS are bitter with their X's and do not communicate, have moved on and started new R's, have found more peace of mind after D, realized they were unhappy as well and not in love.
We are, I feel, a tiny minority, still searching, looking, waiting for some reconnection with the person who left us. Why?
Well, this has been the crux of these discussions these many months.
