Hi,

I probably never did say, but I'm doing something that is very doormat-like. Actually I probably did say before, but it's been quite a while.

My X still has one of the garage door openers. Being that the door to the house inside the garage is always unlocked, she pretty much has free access to the house. She has used it to get the gamecube (she came over last night for that very purpose), she comes by some afternoons (when I'm gone) to iron, she'll occasionally walk the dog and she looks after him when I'm out of town, and she uses the computer when she's over. The other day I turned off the garage door that she has the opener for and she was like "so you're all mad at me? You turned off the garage door." I denied I did it...I should have said..."duh, it's my house". Her kids can pretty much come in and do whatever when they are over including snack on my stuff. She doesn't come over nearly as much as she used to, but how would I know since she mainly comes when I'm gone.

So what do you think? Do you suppose it's way past time to get the opener back and have a closed door policy? I know...Bruce will ask "Do you have a key to her apartment?". I actually considered asking her to give me one since she has free access to my house so she'll get the message. I know how she'll be..."you're mad at me. " I've asked for the garage door opener several times before, but usually when I'm disappointed etc. Maybe I just need to move and then there won't be a house that was "ours".

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