There seemed to be a very different dynamic going on in your sitch for the past month. And it seemed like you had shifted the power (not a good word but you know what I mean) in the R from your XW to you. What I am concerned about with the latest forays is that you might let that slip back into XW's hands. Now, the previous dynamic where she was calling the shots did not work out as you had hoped,leading to your frustration. I am just wondering if you can step back and see where you want to place the dynamic, i.e. the power structure. It may not be apparent to you because you are in the thick of it (all of us fall in this category) but it seemed to me like despite your pulling back your XW is still "there". This would not have happened if she "really" wanted out. I am wondering if you should stay pulled back until it becomes clear that she wants to make a sustained connection?
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The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
