You got tired of chasing and always having to plan around her and when she might include the others. So you reached a point where it really didn't matter and let this be known.
She was so used to you calling or responding to her and her requests, that it surprised her when you don't.
Hope you find your happy place, but maybe not in the front yard.
I did not forget. I waited up for you to call to get directions to my house or tell me when your plane would land so I could pick you up. Remember I said you needed to come here this weekend. Oh, I guess I didn't give you my number.
Update: X called this am. Fortunately I missed the call. She called back later. No real reason. I said we were going to eat if she wanted to join us. She did stop by. Stupidly I hit on her and propositioned her. Oh well, as I said before it doesn't really matter if that moved me forward or backward. She didn't say yes, but she did say "I'll think about it". Oh, one other thing that came up. During the course of that convo I said "don't worry about it....it's not like I want to get back together with you." Funny thing is that I really meant it. What is going on with me? Am I in or out?
THat's it for updates. I should have just waited for Beth. he he
Have a nice Sunday all.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
Stupidly I hit on her and propositioned her... She didn't say yes, but she did say "I'll think about it". Oh, one other thing that came up.
Good one!
What is going on with me? Am I in or out?
Well, I'd say that if she doesn't have sex with you, then you're out. But if she does have sex with you, then you're in and out and in and out and in and out and...
Intellectually out, emotionally still uncertain. You have always liked the pursuit angle, so while your head says it does not really matter, your heart and other parts are still chasing, mostly for fun, but should something happen, you probably would not fight it.
I think Dog hit that one right! What did she do that made you comfortable enough with her to ask her that question? I think that's what I would examine and go from there.
Bruce, thanks for your thoughts. Actually you are 100% correct.
Bethie,
You want me. I know it.
Quote: What did she do that made you comfortable enough with her to ask her that question? I think that's what I would examine and go from there.
She didn't do anything. She was the same. A month or more ago she told me to back off with the physical stuff. Several months before that after a near sex encounter she said we couldn't do that anymore. I've honored that until today. She did nothing different. I guess I just reached a point where I wasn't looking at positives and negatives and just wanted to throw caution to the wind. I'm really quite impervious to rejection. So I just decided to throw that out there and see what happened. Besides, I really do think that she finds me attractive.
Anyway, after I left her at the restaurant I needed the gamecube she took from the house so she agreed to bring it over. When she got here she was dressed in skimpy workout clothes. I said "Wow! You look hot." She said "let's go" and I thought "Oh yes, she's agreeing to sex", but it was just a walk. Actually really a nice one. We talked as we went. She said it was tough 24/7 being with the kids to which I very badly replied "that's the life you asked for". But made amends quickly (sorry Bruce, couldn't just listen. I did for the rest of the walk).
At one point I said "you're a good woman and very beautiful." She said "you're a good man. Although occasionally you can be a booger". I laughed and said "like when." and she rattled off the three things that have apparently stuck in her craw from our marriage. I said "I know." When she said she didn't want to get into it I said.."I'm not defending myself. I know those things were bad and I regret them." She left on a good note. I said if the gym was closed that she should come back by and we'd have a 'workout' together. Yes, I'm incorrible and indefatigable. A glutton for punishment I guess.
Is that all? No, a couple hours later she called and I asked if she got to the gym in time. She didn't so I said "I thought we agreed that you'd come by for a workout if the gym was closed?" I'm awful, aren't I? I ended with "well if you change your mind you're welcome to stay the night." and a few select other things.
Then I played a game with the kids and went to a movie with the kids and a friend.
That's it for updates. Thanks for listening.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
You are nothing if not persistent, maybe not effective, but still persistent. I also notice you are both back on the pursuing track, after you went a few days without calling.
She perceives you as being more available than you were when you first were working through the new realizations. She may almost believe the situation is back where it was.
Although in your mind, you have reached some apex, some point where her behavior does not affect you. That is good news.
he he
That was a great post and it made me smile. Here's hoping your "in".