Bruce, thanks for your thoughts. Actually you are 100% correct.
Bethie,
You want me. I know it.
Quote: What did she do that made you comfortable enough with her to ask her that question? I think that's what I would examine and go from there.
She didn't do anything. She was the same. A month or more ago she told me to back off with the physical stuff. Several months before that after a near sex encounter she said we couldn't do that anymore. I've honored that until today. She did nothing different. I guess I just reached a point where I wasn't looking at positives and negatives and just wanted to throw caution to the wind. I'm really quite impervious to rejection. So I just decided to throw that out there and see what happened. Besides, I really do think that she finds me attractive.
Anyway, after I left her at the restaurant I needed the gamecube she took from the house so she agreed to bring it over. When she got here she was dressed in skimpy workout clothes. I said "Wow! You look hot." She said "let's go" and I thought "Oh yes, she's agreeing to sex", but it was just a walk. Actually really a nice one. We talked as we went. She said it was tough 24/7 being with the kids to which I very badly replied "that's the life you asked for". But made amends quickly (sorry Bruce, couldn't just listen. I did for the rest of the walk).
At one point I said "you're a good woman and very beautiful." She said "you're a good man. Although occasionally you can be a booger". I laughed and said "like when." and she rattled off the three things that have apparently stuck in her craw from our marriage. I said "I know." When she said she didn't want to get into it I said.."I'm not defending myself. I know those things were bad and I regret them." She left on a good note. I said if the gym was closed that she should come back by and we'd have a 'workout' together. Yes, I'm incorrible and indefatigable. A glutton for punishment I guess.
Is that all? No, a couple hours later she called and I asked if she got to the gym in time. She didn't so I said "I thought we agreed that you'd come by for a workout if the gym was closed?" I'm awful, aren't I? I ended with "well if you change your mind you're welcome to stay the night." and a few select other things.
Then I played a game with the kids and went to a movie with the kids and a friend.
That's it for updates. Thanks for listening.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
