Hi Wes, (I think that's your name! ) I'm from the Surviving the Big D forum and I'm one of the ones that is much happier since my D. Many reasons for this which I won't go in to. Yes, there is a lot of bitterness there but I really do think that a lot of the derogatory remarks are made in fun. Like any of the forums, you just have to weed through what is valuable to you and what can be discarded. It sounds like you have one foot in the door and one foot out as far as moving on. Once you make this decision, everything else will fall into place. Don't be afraid to visit us. Jill
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