UD, thanks for your thoughts. I need to reevaluate my overall goals, but for the present I don't have any that say "I'll date XW" or "I'll get back together with her".
Quote: The WAW, particularly when in MLC, is full of pain and self-absorption. They are constantly licking their spiritual wounds, so to speak. the choice for the LBS is to stay with them while they work through their spiritual sickness, or choose their own path. I am not clear, from your post, what you are attempting to do.
UD, I'm not angry and I do understand my XW has pain or whatever. I feel she is a little self-centered right now, but which of them isn't. I don't think I've given up...I mean I'd take her back if she was willing to try. But I'm moving into a phase where I'm not going to worry about her at all. I need her to take a role in this if she wants in. I guess I'm not making the choice "to stay with them while they work through their spiritual sickness".
I intend to get my whole life in order and that includes dating. That doesn't mean I've given up. She is just another potential future R. She can choose to have a R with me or not...I'm just not going to preferentially do things with her. Is any of that making sense. Part of me hopes that she will reach out as I detach more, but there is part of me that says "she won't ever allow a new R with me to work so give up".
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
