I dont know if you have written down your overall objective (as opposed to these "future pursuits") somewhere. I mean, are you done? If you are, then these are excellent goals. If you are not, i.e. if you still want your W back into working on an R, then I still like your goals 2,3,4. But goal 1 seems to be incompatible with not pushing the R over the cliff and goals 5 and , while understandable, are not likely to help with the ultimate objective either. If you are done, of course these are commendable and natural pursuits to follow.
Sorry, Wes, I am not entirely enthusiastic because you are making a lot of decisions now in a state of pain. These usually tend to get revised later on when you get on an even plane. The way to get to an even plane is through a period of calm and introspection and GAL (your goals 2,3,4). I have made so many short-term goals in periods when I was intensely angry/upset with my W's actions. And then later, when I developed compassion for her and saw her side of the pain, I dropped those things that would have driven a wedge between us. Believe me, there is pain on both sides of this Wes. The WAW, particularly when in MLC, is full of pain and self-absorption. They are constantly licking their spiritual wounds, so to speak. the choice for the LBS is to stay with them while they work through their spiritual sickness, or choose their own path. I am not clear, from your post, what you are attempting to do.
It's been 26 months for me. I saw W this morning while picking up D3. I still love this woman intensely. Something is definitely wrong with me?
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The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
