Hi,

So I guess I didn't move over to piecing. Perhaps I should have moved to surviving the big D.

I've done the pursuing thing...and I can't say the results were entirely negative....but neither were they really successful. I think that 6 months is long enough of a trial and I need to try something else....I just need to experiment I guess.

Today while looking at someone else's thread I saw these words "You can't live his life for him and what's worse you can't live your life for him." Part of me is still wanting to be there and protect my XW...help her through the tough patches...give advice on things. I can't do this anymore. She needs to and probably wants to be totally independent. I have also not been sufficiently detached and I haven't pursued my goals to the fullest extent possible. So my first post on this new thread will just be a short list of my future pursuits.

1. Begin to box up XWs possessions that are still at house.

2. Work hard at correspondence course (I signed up for a creative writing class to help me with my book)

3. Get back to working on book.

4. Get more involved with social activities (I've just started volleyball, but I need more opportunities to get out)

5. Date

6. Get garage door opener from XW and be less accessible to X.

Okay...I'll start with this little to do list. I'm just going to be dark for awhile. I think if there is any future R with my XW she is going to have to step up to the plate. I'm sick of doing all the pitching and hitting while she sits on the bench. Go BRAVES!


In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.
Abraham Lincoln

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
Theodore Roosevelt