Though I do not agree with the 90/10 percentage breakdown I think in truth it is more balanced between the two. I do get what you are saying. What I do not get is why HD men in paticular feel when a LD is trying they are assuming that the LD is just laying there. I don't really feel this is a fair assumption.
And I do agree it is time to turn the thread over to Sadfish as it is her thread.