The bare bones facts

[nightrunner]

I got that. I have been working on the issues that were given as the causes of not wanting sex. She has said that we have been getting along great, but the sex is still not as frequent as I would like. All I am saying is that if the relationship is good except for the lack of sex, what more is there to do but have more sex. My wife and I had a great night last night. Went out to dinner for my birthday, and had some good discussions. She admitted that she realized this week that she has been holding back the sex when she is pissed at me. I asked her if she agreed that things had been alot better between us for the past 7 months, and that I had really changed in the way I react to things. She agreed. So I asked her why she would hold back on sex because I had made one comment or done one thing wrong with all the other things I am now doing right? She agrees that she needs to work on the sex issue. At times, it is not even the lack of sex that is the issue, it is the lack of trying of the LD partner. I think if the HD partner sees some effort on the LDs side, the 'not gettin any' would not be as big of an issue.