In reply to afool, I have thought about and actually told my H that it would be just fine with me if he had sex with someone else. Going over the same old thing every day just wore me out to the point where I just didn't care. It would have been a relief.
I know that he has thought the 'if she loved me she wouldn't do this', I hear it constantly. He didn't care when I felt that way, why should I care now that he's finally come to the realisation that our relationship is a mess. We are at a stalemate in the bedroom. To me love isn't bullying or guilting someone into having sex. I would feel better being a prostitute, at least I would be getting money out of it.
Maybe they should stop telling us when we are young that our bodies belong to US and that no one has the right to make us do things that we don't want to do?
Anyway, as I posted before I am trying to let go of these negative feelings. No one can expect them to go away overnight, they took years to develop so it's going to take time to sort through them.
