Hey fish, I think it was really jerky of your H to push you into ML when you said 'no.' I never did this to my W, but, after hearing "no" a bunch of times, I did start getting pissy with her. Rolling over, sighing, just not being very loving towards her.
You need to tell him all this.... That's your responsibility. He needs to understand it. That's his responsibility. Once you two are able to get over the "control" aspects of ML, then you'll be able to work on the "fun" aspect.
