I understand where you are coming from on this from my past LD days....and I know your POV on this is a frustrating one.
Let me ask you this...those times that you told your H you did't want to ML, why didn't you want to ML? Were you thinking back to "here we go again!" knowing he was going to persist anyway? And...is there anytime where you do find yourself in the mood to ML, if so...do you ever approach him?
Having been on both sides of this fence now I can say back when I was LD...approaching my H was something I wouldn't consider, I was too shy/awkward whatever.....but now as the HD person I can't impress upon you enough what an impact that would have on your H....and it's not even something you have to do all the time, but every now and then it makes the other person feel attractive, wanted, loved by their partner, which is something I'm sure your H is desperately seeking from you.
