" I am sure that there is more to your lack of desire then just to dissapointment. You will need to find that other discontentment and work on it. But you will also need to make some steps to start meeting your H's needs and your own. "
After yet another fight with H and a couple of hours of not being able to sleep (plus too much coffee!) I was thinking about this.
The emotional connection during sex for me is missing. A probable cause would be the many times I made myself clear that I didn't want to ML yet H persisted. Eventually I would give in because I hated it when he got mad and I would just lie there with my arms over my face, not wanting to look at him, getting more & more angry, thoughts like 'If he loved me he wouldn't do this', running through my head. Sometimes he would say things like, 'I don't want to do it if you're not into it', but he would never not do it! Then he would wonder why I would push him away when he tried to cuddle me afterwards!
I think this is why I see ML as more of a physical act than an intimate one. I hope this makes sense, it's late and I just wanted to post before I forgot!
