Where to begin? Yes, check with a reputable physician, because the last time I checked, iron was not a hormone.
Marriage counseling sounds like it may help you guys. With him "kicking you out" it sounds to me like anger and sex probably aren't the only issues. It's hard to find a good one, but it's definitely worth it.
Quote: I tried SO many times to instruct H on what felt good for me and what didn't but nothing took. He was back to the same old thing EVERY single time!
Sounds like both of you need some work on this issue. You need to get strong and tell/show him what feels good. And when he starts doing the "same old thing" well, you just have to say, "uh, nope. That ain't doing anything for me." Because, let's face it, there are plenty of ways for both people to feel good about sex, and plenty of ways for just one to feel good about it.
Quote: cons: pregnancy all worked up and nowhere to go (energy & concentration) the wet between the legs for days after not sleep
Just guessing here, but it sounds like, once he gets his "o", he doesn't really care about yours. Um, just a guy here, but, hey, that's not fair. Either you need to take control and show/tell him exactly what to do to help you get over the mountain, or both of you are out of luck, right? And this "wet between the legs for days after" suggests to me that you don't masturbate.
(It can get pretty graphic here, sometimes). Well, maybe you ought to. It could help you better get in touch with your body. It's your sexuality too, you know. Take responsibility for it. Own it.
How about some "How To" videos for the both of you? There are a lot of tastefully done instructional videos, dvds, and books for you. Sounds like you might want to give them a look.
I have to go now, too. I'm sure others will add to the list.
