Well a positive thing is that you seem to care! You are here and asking questions!
I am the LDW in our R. My children are 8 and 12 so are past that baby stage that takes so much energy out of a woman. My drive was much less then than now. I felt like a need meeting machine and had very little going in to feed my needs. I think that can be a contributor particulairly if you are not a HD person.
I agree with what others have said here. Have you had a medical check up or gone to the doctor about it?
I don't know what you see at this point...Michelle's books talk about the pain that D brings on children. While you can work on your M I encourage you to do so.
I had anger and resentment toward my H that I had to deal with so my LD is a combination of 1)Lower Drive than my H 2) Marriage issues to deal with 3) Energy 4) Self IMage.
Those issues I am dealing with as far as 1) Healthy eating, vitamins etc., exercise 2) Work on me as far as the Marriage Issues 3) Quit believing the lies in my mind about myself and see what is really beautiful about me and 4) THE BIGGIE....think differently.
Sometimes I can have NO DESIRE for sex at all. If I just think about the sex first. But I think first about what I love about my H. Then I think of S as a way to express that love to him. He hears it best that way. I don't think of S as just the raw act. I know that probably most HD can and do and that is good for them.
I go at it from a different place. Then once I start thinking about him and what I love and respect about him then I think about the last time or times we made love that I really enjoyed and what I enjoyed about it. What felt really good. Then I think about that and pretty soon an eyebrow is lifted and I start giggling.
Ok, I said that to say. I had to figure what were my LD issues and what do I need to do to try and come to at least a closer place to my H drive so that he doesn't live in continual frustration.
Don't just accept that you have ND. If for no other reason at all...but for your children! Do you want them in a marriage with no sex? What if they want sex and their partner doesn't?
As a mom and that natural fight for your kids thing inside. I had to learn how to do the right thing...how to make my marriage work...so that they could look at us and see we did it! If we fail then they have less change of succeeding. D is very painful..my parents D and then remarried.
Make the decision to find answers! You can do it! Do it now! Don't wait! Check 1st with your Doctor.
