I messed up. I am paying for it, and so is x, though that is not my burden to carry.
You mean you messed up because you didn't act as the head of the household? X is your ex-wife? You should have been more dominant, because your x wanted it that way, and she told you that?
My WS makes more money than I (it is 60% her, 40% me). I don't feel comfortable making the important decisions about her money, and I think she would fight that anyway, and I don't want to fight about it anyway. So I guess if I don't act more dominant (your word), then I guess I am f*cked, since I don't want to and it doesn't feel right from inside of me, anyway.
You also said something about dominance/submission being proven by biology. One of your minions ("What BF means . . .") said you meant human biology, not general biology, so what human biology proves your point about male/female dominance/submission? Is it biology is destiny (man is on top during sex, therefore should always be dominant)? Is it men are traditionally hunters; women usually gatherers, homebuilders? Is it that men have more physical strength? That women are incapacitated 9 months during pregnancy? Or what? If human biology proves dominance/submission, it also proves the value of choices. In other words, as humans, we are aware of the existence of freedom of choice and of the future consequences, unlike most animals, I suppose. So, how does biology, human or otherwise, prove your dominance/submission theory?
"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places." - Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell to Arms, 1929.
