Eeyore is a character from Winny the Pooh. He always has a negative outlook, the glass is less then half-full and anything that can go wrong will. He lets everyone around him know that. His physical demeanor is dejected.
I see you make comments like this. If you are generally like this, I am telling you - if female attraction were a poison this attitude is the antidote.
Chrissy has a lot of pertinent questions. They are hard to deal with and answer. I know because I brushed to many of them under the rug myself.
I have fought with this all my live ("You're supposed to be the macho man; you're supposed to be making the big bucks; you're supposed to drive the pickup truck and fight with other guys in the honky-tonks to prove your manhood; you need to be the football hero" - "This will attract the girls to you").
None of these things are necessary to appear strong, confidant, or earn respect. That comes from inside, feeling you have value, and demonstrating that by not allowing others to disrespect you. The things you gave as examples are caricatures, and outward manifestations of our societies perception of these qualities.
Now I have a question. Why do you fight this common belief? Why do you dislike the fact that the man should be the head of the house? That the women should be submissive to his lead?
I have a problem with it because I see so many men abuse this 'privelege', this biological imperitive to the detriment of the womans well being.
But that doesnt change the fact that it does exist and I have to 'play by the rules'. I can only do it to the best of my ability in a way that is good for both of us.
I messed up. I am paying for it, and so is x, though that is not my burden to carry.
