Ask the questions you need to ask get the information you need to understand the whys and hows.
Most of this we went over right after the affair came out in the open. She volunteered some information and I asked about the rest. A lot of the logistical information (times and places, etc.) were in the letters I got from the OM's wife. Also, the MC asked some other questions I couldn't think of during our sessions (he thought some of the motivation was her depression; he also asked how she arranged her thoughts/feelings when she knew a meeting or phone sex call was coming up). I tried to go over everything I wanted to know by reading through the Spring book "After the Affair", and Glass's "Not Just Friends". I really can't think of any questions I could have about the Affair.
I am going to ask you another loaded question. Why do you believe this?
Two reasons I can think of right off. When we went for our first interview with the MC, she said to him she was sorry for the hurt she had caused me and wanted to make up for it. Also, right after I found out about the affair, she cried and said she was sorry. That could be an act or insincere, but I don't think so. She has also shown a lot of motivation on working on restoring our marriage and has put work into our sessions with the MC.
"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places." - Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell to Arms, 1929.
