I appologize for not posting, however I have been following. As far as the job thing goes, may I suggest the "Resumes that knock them dead" and "Interviews that knock them dead". Like yourself, I was letting failure kill my assertivenes and drive. Once I read these books, learned and applied what they taught, I was quite a force to be recond with.
You are probably starting to see the same results from what you have learned here and DB/DR. This sounds like quite a growing time for you. Recognize it as such, have a positive attitude, give space, and be the better choice for her. As you'll hear on this board, the longer you do this the more you will see how "on the money" these books are. It gives me a positive feeling when I see that if I follow what I'm taught here, I can overcome this problem/challenge.
Work hard on yourself, that is the main thing I have learned here. Keep your focus on your changes. The fact that she is doing MC with you is a big plus, take comfort in that. To me that is a very big positive that she wants to work on things. In a way perhaps having the session focus on your issue made her feel more at ease with the sessions, therefore leading to more session, resulting in a more likely positive outcome. But I suspect you've already made that connection.
Sorry this is short, but work duties call. I'll get you more details on those books I mentioned. They are well worth the money spent, I won't even lend mine out.
