Our pastor has been a great support for me in this situation. I was ready to accept the death of my marriage when I found out about the affair, but got some reassurance from him when I found out that this happens a lot in marriages, in what he considered good marriages. So we are taking it day-to-day. My WS does morning prayers on the way to work (early, 6:30, she is an elementary teacher). Hers are more directed; usually, I only pray during Sunday service, and only by mentally repeating "Thy will be done." I feel somewhat guilty about that, since it doesn't take much effort. But it helps me keep balance.
My WS is coming back home this evening after visiting her daughters and grandsons in Lalaland (Huntington Beach). I need to bring up the subject of MC with her. We started a course of MC (Imago) after the bomb dropped, mostly at my insistence. I feel that I have been pushing for it more that she, although she seems to find the MC useful and we both like our MC. We have dropped it for a few weeks and I need to pin her down to set our next appointment. She is starting school next week, and that is always a busy, stressful time. I am looking for a low-stress, non-confrontational method of doing this. I tend to be too direct sometimes.
"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places." - Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell to Arms, 1929.
