Quote: Most people don’t have A’s just to have an A. There has to be something lacking in the R to make someone do it.
That is what I have been able to get from my WS. At first, she couldn't tell me why she had done it. After talking this out with our MC, he, and then she, suggested she was looking for excitement to deal with depression. The affair also had a history; she had known the guy before we met and had been in the A during her first marriage. All this said, I think as a man, my first reaction was/is to find out what I was doing wrong. The MC and my WS are more interested in what she was thinking, feeling at the time and now. I have found this out from my WS, but it is enlightening to hear it from another WS.
"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places." - Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell to Arms, 1929.
