Uncle NYSurvivor suggested I move to this index, so I'll give it a try. I don't get many replies to my posts, which is OK. I just write things out to clear my mind. My WAS is in LaLaLand this week (SOCAL), visiting her daughters and grandsons. They are staying at the super deluxe Hyatt in Huntington Beach, which makes me feel guilty because I couldn't afford to pay to stay in a place like that, but I am happy she is enjoying the visit. Since she is the WS (before, not now; we are working on rebuilding trust since her affair of 12 years, all during our married life. We are still married.), I am apprehensive of what is going on out in SoCal, but we have rebuilt some trust since the bomb dropped four+ months ago. I still have doubts. We are going to MC; she seems to be committed to the counseling, but now that school is starting up again and she goes back to teaching it is going to be harder to find appointment times. I feel compelled to press her to attend the counseling because I don't want to wind up in another bomb-dropping situation.
"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places." - Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell to Arms, 1929.
