I feel for you on the anxiety/depression part. Believe me, it took a whole year for me to get out of that deep hole. But if you keep looking and searching and hanging on, there will come a time when you can bear it, even take charge of your responses and handle the sitch with some semblance of poise. But it will take time. Please try to be gentle with yourself as you face this devastation. Hope you can develop a small, tight network of support, maybe one of two trustworthy friends who will listen to you and help you stay afloat without intervening too much into the sitch. Just somebody to hang out with or call in the most difficult times. That is one way I got through the very rough initial period.
UD
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
